This is one of the search engine terms that is quite frequently used to find this blog. I’m don’t think I’ve addressed it directly, but it is definitely one of those things that I’ve discussed in other posts about sex. Since it frequently gets queried, so why not I answer it here? If you want the direct answer, just scroll to the bottom of this post. If you want the explanation to that answer, read on.
First, what is the purpose of sex?
Sex is a sign of love between a man and a woman. A love that is freely given to each other, complete and total, faithful to each other, and is open to life. This sexual act between man and woman is also a sign of God’s love for his church, and also a sign of God’s love as a trinity.
By this I mean the free, total, faithful and fruitful love between the Father and the Son. The Father willingly (read: free) gives himself completely (read: total) to the Son and only to the Son (read: faithful) because there is no one else that he can receive him in this total way, except for one that is like him. This is because only the Son is eternally begotten by the Father, as we recite in the Nicene Creed every Sunday Mass. And the Son too gives himself freely, completely, and faithfully to the Father. This love between them is so perfect that it yields (read: fruitful) the person of the Holy Spirit.
This Holy Spirit, the Lord, the giver of life (as it is in the Nicene Creed as well) must be welcomed in any complete union, particularly the union between man and woman, husband and wife. In other words, any union between a man and a woman, particularly their sexual union, must be open to the Holy Spirit, the giver of life.
A sexual union that is not open to the Holy Spirit, the giver of life, is a union in which the couple says to God, “No, we don’t want you in our union.”
To answer the question on the Catholic teaching on oral sex, and in fact almost any question on sex, it is important to bear in mind these four conditions: FTFF – Free, Total, Faithful, Fruitful.
Is the sexual act in question Free, Total, Faithful, and Fruitful?
Is oral sex open to life? Can life come from oral sex? Is the Holy Spirit able to create life from oral sex?
Answer: No. Oral sex is not allowed in a Catholic marriage.
Last edited on September 20, 2006:
Following a comment in this post, I decided to add an additional link to this post, because yes, there is one exception to this negative answer to oral sex in a Catholic marriage. The post linked will provide what is hopefully an adequate explanation.
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