From a letter to concerned parents written by Catherine Lim:
With reference to the CSE program (which I have not seen), I can say this with confidence: it is probably a well-researched, useful course of instruction providing young people with information on a whole range of sex-related issues (with the homosexuality bits cited by the Christian group actually forming only a small percentage of the total course). Its usefulness is reflected in its adoption by school principals and teachers who, by the standards of their profession, can be trusted to have good judgment and a strong moral sense. Moreover, during the considerable time that it was run, there had been no public complaints, including from the Christian activists, which the Ministry of Education would surely have immediately investigated. Lastly, the Aware leadership, although steadfastly maintaining the position it has taken in the program, has at the same time promised to look into parents’ complaints, reservations and suggestions for improvement. So on the issue of the suitability of the CSE materials for your children, I would say you can rest assured.
This seems to be the reason that supporters of the AWARE CSE programme gives and it seems to be okay with everyone. It reminds me of a story I once read.
A teenage boy once asked his mother for permission to watch a particular movie that received attention for showing scenes of violence and nudity. “It’s only a small portion of the movie,” he explained. “Please, may I go and watch it with my friends? Everyone else is going.”
The mother didn’t answer immediately, but asked him to come back in a couple of hours. When the boy came back, his mother gave him a batch of chocolate chip cookies to eat. Over the cookies, they began to talk about the issue, and the mother shared her thoughts on not wanting him to watch the movie because of the violent scenes.
Again, the boy said, “But it’s only a small part of the movie.” The mother pointed to the cookies and said, “As I was baking these cookies, I ran out of chocolate chips, so I used part of the dog’s faeces instead.”
When the boy heard that, he dropped the cookie he was eating and his mouth fell open in horror. The mother was quick to reassure him, “Don’t worry. It’s only a small portion of the cookies. Take some more.”
“No thanks!” exclaimed the boy.
“Why not?” asked the mother.
“Some has shit in them! I’m not touching it, even if the rest are okay,” he replied.
“And that’s why I don’t want you watching that movie,” said the mother. “Even though the violent parts form only a small part of the movie, it is still bad for you.”
Likewise, even though the homosexual bits form only a small part of the CSE programme run by AWARE, it is still bad for the children. Essentially the CSE trainers having been imposing their own values on the children – that it is okay to be homosexual. It’s not a bad thing.
Some of us say that it is okay to be homosexual, and that we have friends who are homosexual. But I ask: what if tonight, one of your children comes up to you and says, “Dad (or Mom), I’m gay.” What is your reaction? Our immediate and instinctive reaction would be, “Oh no!” Some of us would cry. Some of us would deny it. Why? Because despite what we say about being homosexual, it is something none of us would wish on our children simply because it is not a good thing.
Even so, what do we do when we are faced with a problem of homosexuality that we find ourselves, our friends, or our children having? We deal with it the same way we deal with all the bad things that happen in our lives. We accept it, that this is a cross that we and our loved ones have to carry, and we go through life with the support of friends and family. But we do not go around telling other people, “It’s okay to be homosexual.” Just like we don’t go around telling people, “It’s okay to be blind.”
Homosexuality is not a neutral thing, but that doesn’t mean we should reject the people who have it. If anything, we should be more supportive of people who find themselves burdened with it, because they have a heavier cross to carry and they need our help, our emotional support, and most importantly, our friendship, to get through life, a life that many of us take for granted.
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